You’re NOT Listening!!!
Break the cycle of miscommunication — no more over explaining or guessing games
You know that moment when you walk away from a conversation thinking,
“How did that get so weird so fast”
You tried to be clear. You repeated yourself. You over explained.
Somehow they still heard something completely different than what you meant.
You’re Not Listening!!! is here for that exact chaos.
This communication skills book gives you practical tools to make everyday conversations easier at home, at work, and with literally every human in between. You will learn how to say what you actually mean, understand what people are really trying to say back to you, and stop replaying every interaction in your head for days.
No therapy degree. No corporate jargon. Just real talk, real examples, and clear frameworks you can use in your next text, meeting, or “we need to talk” moment.
Why conversations feel harder than they should
If you’re exhausted by communication, it’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because no one taught you how to navigate emotions, defensiveness, and different communication styles in real life.
This book is for you if you
Repeat yourself three different ways and still feel misunderstood
Over explain to “be extra clear” and somehow make it more confusing
Shut down when conflict hits because your brain goes completely blank
Send long follow up texts to clarify what you really meant
Obsess over what someone actually meant by that message, emoji, or tone
Watch tiny comments explode into full blown arguments with partners, friends, coworkers, or family
If you’ve ever thought “That’s not what I meant at all” this is your book.
What You’re Not Listening!!! helps you do
By the time you finish You’re Not Listening!!! you’ll know how to
Communicate clearly without rambling or going in circles
Say what you mean without sounding harsh, passive, or apologetic
Hear what people are really saying underneath their exact words
Ask better questions so you stop guessing and start understanding
Stay grounded when you’re emotional so your message actually lands
Set boundaries without guilt, blowups, or three days of awkward tension
Move through difficult conversations with calm, clarity, and confidence
This is not about “talking less.” It’s about communicating with intention so you waste less energy and create fewer misunderstandings in your relationships, at work, and everywhere else.
Inside this communication skills book
Here’s a peek at what you’ll find inside You’re Not Listening!!!
Simple frameworks that help you organize what you want to say before you say it
Practical tools to recognize when you’re triggered and still stay in the conversation
Real scripts and examples you can adapt for texts, talks, and tough meetings
Strategies to check your assumptions instead of putting words in someone’s mouth
Ways to repair after a messy moment so it doesn’t turn into long term resentment
Reflective prompts that help you understand your own communication patterns
You can flip to any chapter and walk away with a specific tool you can use that same day. This book is written to live in the wild — on your nightstand, in your bag, or in your earbuds on the way to work.
Who this book is really for
This book is designed for real humans, not perfect communicators.
It’s especially helpful if you are
In a relationship and stuck in the same argument on repeat
Single and dating and tired of every conversation feeling like a test
Dealing with family members who get defensive, sarcastic, or icy
Navigating friendships where things go from “it’s fine” to “we’re not speaking”
Leading a team or working with coworkers who misinterpret emails and feedback
Someone who has been called “too much,” “too sensitive,” “too blunt,” or “hard to read”
Whether you’re talking to a partner, a boss, a roommate, or your sister, the tools in You’re Not Listening!!! work across romantic relationships, friendships, families, and workplace communication.
About Andrea LaRosa
Andrea LaRosa is a communication expert, coach, and author dedicated to helping people break patterns of miscommunication and create stronger, more effective conversations.
As the author and narrator of You’re Not Listening!!! she blends clarity, emotional intelligence, and practical tools in a way that feels like sitting down with a coach who actually gets how real life works.
Through her coaching programs, workshops, and her brand Smarter Strategies, Andrea teaches individuals and professionals how to communicate with confidence, intention, and impact — in relationships, at work, and everywhere in between.
You are not getting fluffy theory. You’re getting strategies that have been tested with real people in real relationships and real workplaces.
Common questions
Is this book only about romantic relationships
Nope. The communication tools in You’re Not Listening!!! apply to dating, long term relationships, friendships, family, and workplace conversations. If there’s a human involved, the skills work there.
Do I need to be naturally good with words for this to help
Not at all. The book is written in plain language with lots of examples so you can borrow the structure and adapt it to your own speaking style.
Is the audiobook different from the print or ebook
The audiobook includes the full content of the book, narrated by Andrea. Reflection questions and exercises are described so you can pause, jot down your thoughts, and return when you’re ready.
